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No More Excuses

Posted on January 4, 2019 at 5:13 PM Comments comments (36)
We can no longer use the past to excuse behavior in the present! 

No matter what our past experiences were, how troublesome our childhood was, or what failures we have experienced in previous jobs, new experience can create new neural circuitry in the brain and override existing patterns. Even after years of troubled relationships, self- destructive behaviors, or the inability to assert ourselves in relationships or at work, we still have the capacity to become the people we are meant to be.
Your brain is capable of changing from emotionally driven, automatic, survival
behaviors, to new patterns of behavior by forming new pathways in the brain. You
can reprogram your self-defeating and self-limiting behaviors, and your automatic

negative thoughts, and self-limiting behaviors. You can attain a new level of self-awareness, emotional management and self-determination. 

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What are you afraid of?

Posted on September 23, 2014 at 8:14 PM Comments comments (26)

Our behavior changes when our innate fear is
being triggered, whether we are aware of it or
not. Fear pushes us into the emotional part of our
brain, leaving us at the mercy of our impulses and
unconscious habits of mind that have been hard‐
wired into our brain through our conditioning
and experiences.

The following are the eight distinct psychological
fears as well as the key impact on your behavior.
By understanding the motivation and need
attached to the fear, we can stop acting out of the

‐ Innate Need: To Be In Control
~ Associated Fear: Feeling Helpless or Powerless

‐ Innate Need: To Be Knowledgeable
~ Associated Fear: Being Inferior

‐ Innate Need: To Be Recognized
~ Associated Fear: Shame

‐ Innate Need: To Be Perceptive
~ Associated Fear: Disconnection

‐ Innate Need: To Be Connected
~ Associated Fear: Abandonment

‐ Innate Need: To Be Creative
~ Associated Fear: Assimilation

‐ Innate Need: To Be Spontaneous
~ Associated Fear: Loss of Freedom

‐ Innate Need: To Be Secure
~ Associated Fear: The Unknown

Learn more about your needs so you can overcome your fear. 


Posted on August 31, 2014 at 9:48 PM Comments comments (25)


The truth is that most of us just don’t understand
our own needs, fears, and habits of mind very
well, so we sabotage ourselves by living life at
less than full throttle. We let our fear define and
decide what experiences we will have and what
we will say, because we are afraid of stirring up
emotions in others or ourselves. Over time, we
may accept this compromise as living, when,
unknown to us, all we are really doing is living
life on autopilot and trying not to rock the boat.

Our innate fears are varied. They are based on
our strongest motivations (striving energies) and
their associated psychological needs. We are
conditioned to judge our fears rather than to
examine them and ask ourselves the purpose of
the feeling. Only through understanding the
motivation and need attached to the fear, can we
stop acting out of the fear.

Fear Part 2

Posted on August 23, 2014 at 1:30 AM Comments comments (12)
But I Should Not Be Afraid


Most of the advice that you will receive about our
fears is how to control, deny, rationalize or
overcome them. The reality is that fear occurs
naturally, out of our conscious control. It is the
body’s warning system that there is a threat.

Often our fears are associated with past
experiences as our negative emotional memories
are stored in the brain. We tend to fear those
things that we have experienced that have caused
us pain and suffering in the past. We can tell
ourselves that we don’t feel things but the reality
is that we have pushed it so far out of our
awareness that we blindly keep going forward
despite being warned to the contrary.

We mistakenly believe our fear is not going to
return because we tell ourselves we should not be
afraid. We call ourselves names, tell ourselves we
are stupid for feeling afraid, all to no avail. We
need to have the experience of fear and then
figure out why we feel afraid. For example, if I
most fear embarrassment, I may reflect on what
the consequences are for feeling this. 
Why I am unable to tolerate the emotion? 
How do I live in my experience instead of fearing what I might